In class this week we have been reading Romeo and Juliet. We are currently reading Act III and I have started forming some opinions on some things that have occurred in the play.
“There’s no trust,
No faith, no honesty in men. All perjured,
All forsworn, all naught, all dissemblers.
Ah, where’s my man?—Give me some aqua vitae.—
These griefs, these woes, these sorrows make me old.
Shame come to Romeo!” (Shakespeare, Act 3 Scene 2, 90)
Let me just give you a quick summary on this so you are not confused and you know what is going on. So basically, Romeo and Tybalt (who was Juliet’s cousin) got in a fight and Romeo killed Tybalt. Now, this all began when Tybalt approached Romeo and told him he wanted to fight him because he did not like him. Romeo told Tybalt that he would not fight because for one it would disappoint Juliet and second because he would be killing his family. (Family because Juliet and Romeo had been secretly married the night before and they have not told anybody yet, so Tybalt is technically family) Now, this is when Mercutio (Romeo’s best friend) started to fight Tybalt and Tybalt killed Mercutio. Out of rage and anger Romeo began to fight with Tybalt and this was when Romeo killed Tybalt. In the beginning of the book we learn that the Prince told the two different families if they fought again that they would be killed for fighting because it was getting out of hand. Romeo runs away knowing what he did and hides out in the Friars (who was the preacher who wed Romeo and Juliet) office. Juliet does not know that any of this has happened and she is waiting for her perfect Romeo to return. This is now where the quote comes in the place. The Nurse, has just come into Juliet’s room to tell her about Tybalt and Romeo and how the Prince has banished Romeo from Verona (which is where they live) The Nurse tells Juliet what happens and then the nurse says the quote above. ^^^
The Nurse also says:
“Will you speak well of him that killed your cousin?” (Shakespeare, Act 3 Scene 2, 96)
This is where my argument begins. First off, yes I fully agree that what Romeo did was wrong and you shouldn’t kill someone but also there was good reasoning behind it. Romeo did not just randomly walk up to Tybalt and kill him. (Romeo had a reason to kill Tybalt and to be fair if Romeo did not kill Tybalt he would have been killed anyways by the Prince’s orders) In class, we shorty discussed if Juliet should have stayed with Romeo after killing her cousin but I never got to fully express my opinion on the matter, so I am going to state it now:
Boys can do absolutely stupid things and they will make mistakes. They can become frustrating and sometimes you wanna just leave them. In some cases if a man does something so severe like hurt you physically or does something so wrong then you should leave them and never look back. By saying this, I would like to bring up my point.
What Romeo did was wrong but just because someone does something wrong shouldn’t mean you love them any less. Yes, at some point you will have trust issues and have opinions that you both won’t agree on, but hey that’s the fun of loving. I feel that as a human we don’t always have an option of who we fall in love with. It just kind of happens and that is the magic of it. Saying this, if Juliet did love Romeo as much as Shakespeare made the two characters out to be then she should help Romeo through his internal struggle. But also, she should let him know that she still loves him and forgives him and maybe it will take a little bit for her to forgive him. The point of the matter is, everyone has a different way of expressing their love and they are going to mess up at some point. In any situation you should
- Let the person know how you feel and tell them what they messed up on (Do NOT sugar coat anything)
- Let him/her know how much they hurt you
- Tell them the consequences if they do it another time or do anything close to it
- Still be harsh but tell them you will be there for them and if they want to change something about them you are willing to help
- Tell them you love them and tell them you want a forever with them (Optional)
- Be willing to listen and help them through whatever challenges they may face
- Learn to forgive and learn to love again
(Just to be clear, I am not a match maker or a psychiatrist)
It was such a relief after what Juliet had in response to the nurse. Which was (if you were wonder)
Shall I speak ill of him that is my husband?
Ah, poor my lord, what tongue shall smooth thy name,
When I, thy three hours’ wife, have mangled it?
But wherefore, villain, didst thou kill my cousin?
That villain cousin would have killed my husband.
Back, foolish tears, back to your native spring.
Your tributary drops belong to woe,
Which you, mistaking, offer up to joy.
My husband lives, that Tybalt would have slain,
And Tybalt’s dead, that would have slain my husband.
All this is comfort. Wherefore weep I then?
Some word there was, worser than Tybalt’s death,
That murdered me. I would forget it fain,
But oh, it presses to my memory,
Like damnèd guilty deeds to sinners’ minds.
“Tybalt is dead, and Romeo banishèd.”
That “banishèd,” that one word “banishèd”
Hath slain ten thousand Tybalts. Tybalt’s death
Was woe enough, if it had ended there.
Or, if sour woe delights in fellowship
And needly will be ranked with other griefs,
Why followed not, when she said “Tybalt’s dead,”
“Thy father” or “thy mother,” nay, or both,
Which modern lamentations might have moved?
But with a rearward following Tybalt’s death,
“Romeo is banishèd.” To speak that word,
Is father, mother, Tybalt, Romeo, Juliet,
All slain, all dead. “Romeo is banishèd.”
There is no end, no limit, measure, bound,
In that word’s death. No words can that woe sound.
Where is my father and my mother, Nurse?” (Shakespeare Act 3 Scene 2, 97-128)
Indeed what Juliet said hit the nail on it’s head and Shakespeare had a way with words. As I rest my case I would like to end you on these to small quote that are in the bible:
Matthew 6: 14-15
14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
Romeo and Juliet Quotes citation: Crowther, John, ed. “No Fear Romeo and Juliet.” SparkNotes.com. SparkNotes LLC. 2005. Web. 20 Jan. 2017.
The Bible: The Holy Bible, Containing the Old and New Testaments. New York: T. Nelson & Sons, 1901. Print.